Being hitched doesn’t mean enduring endless nights of so-so sex. Ramp up your sex life with imaginative scenarios, kinky sex toys, and new limits.
Don’t Be Yourself
A little bit of roleplay can make the sex great again. Pretend that you two are strangers and watch her talk to men at the bar before sweeping in and picking her up. Don’t forget to dress the part, as costumes and clothes add a bit of realism to the roleplaying. She’ll feel a bit sexier because of the attention, and watching her chatting up men will only make you want her more. A little fake reluctance and force can take your desires to new heights — nothing too rough and nothing that will leave marks the following day. Don’t forget to communicate during your encounter; have her cry for help or beg for mercy as you make lewd comments on how much you want her. Hearing each other’s voices is part of the turn on, so don’t hold back on the acting.
Go Fifty Shades and More
Sometimes, bondage and power plays can show you a different part of yourself that you never knew existed. Go all out with the cuffs, sex toys, blindfolds, and cock locks, but gradually immerse yourself in the rougher stuff. Don’t try choking yourselves at the get-go or any of the dangerous stuff. Those things take time to get the hang of, and you wouldn’t want an accident on your hands just because you lost yourself in the moment. Always prioritize safety. If you think that one of you is feeling uncomfortable, dial it down and ask. Safe words are okay if you guys are really into roleplaying, but if you’re starting, it’s better to be safe. Getting bondage and S&M stuff can be problematic if you’re a bit self-conscious. However, you can always get them online and have them delivered. You can even get a PO box if you’re paranoid about the neighbors.
Change the Scenery
Take a trip somewhere nice, go on an extended vacation, and hump like rabbits. Sometimes, having sex in your own house puts shackles on your sexual expression. You can’t make as much noise because the neighbors will be talking and you’ll probably traumatize the kids. Being under your own roof in your own bed also grounds you to reality. It’s hard to feel sexy or pretend that you’re another person if you’re having sex in your own bed. Rent a nice room a couple of hours away from home and make as much noise and play whatever games you want. If you have the time for longer trips, new sights and experiences will only give you more energy and motivation for nighttime escapades.
Change it up once in a while, but don’t overdo it. Keep it between the two of you and don’t even think of involving other people. Aim to please your partner and count each other’s orgasms as conquests. Sex is a lot better if both of you enjoy it, so make an effort to find out each of your wants or desires.